Psychological Science | 5 Psychological Effects, Take You To Know Yourself
On the Olympic mountain in ancient Greece, there is a Delphi temple. In the temple, there is a stone with five words on it: know yourself.
Later, the great philosopher Socrates took this sentence as his philosophical motto.
There are three philosophical questions in life: who am I? Where do I come from? Where am I going?
Different philosophical spiritual fields have different answers to these three questions, and many troubles and tangles in our life also originate from the extension of these three questions.
Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, said: Our troubles and pains are not because of the things themselves, but because of the ideas, we put into them.
Indeed, many problems in our life and work make us entangled. If we think from another angle, we can quickly find a breakthrough. Try to ask yourself the following questions. If you have the same trouble, you need to read today’s article. For a new start in 2021, don’t be fooled by your psychology.
01.
Return to work, Is it hard to get back to work?
Some people say that this is very normal, that is, the typical “post Festival syndrome”, while others say that this is the embodiment of the difficulty of everything at the beginning. This is reasonable, and the theory of the “flywheel effect” supports this point.
For the stationary flywheel to turn, you have to push it again and again with a lot of force at first. After reaching a critical point, the gravity and impulse of the flywheel will become part of the driving force. At this time, you don’t need to work harder, the flywheel will still rotate quickly and continuously.
The energy needed when the flywheel starts to rotate is the expansion and accumulation of each painful breakthrough. This is to prepare for the formation of its system. Once the system can support each other, its operation will become easier and easier.
As the scientist, Franklin said: if there is anything that needs to be done tomorrow, it’s better to start now.
To write a composition, the most difficult thing is the beginning; to build a house, the most difficult thing is to lay the foundation; to prepare for new challenges, after the psychological difficulties, the problems will always be solved.
Believe that the “flywheel effect” is not the pursuit of once and for all, but at the beginning of the psychological contest with want to retreat, don’t let it hold you back.
02.
Do you feel fixed and closed, Have to succumb to strong habitual thinking?
People follow the previous inherent thinking to think about problems, just like the inertia generated by the movement of objects. Strong inertia thinking will make people’s thinking fixed and closed, and form a blind spot, lack of breakthrough and innovation.
The birdcage effect is an interesting illustration of this.
Birdcage effect:
In 1907, psychologist James retired from Harvard University, along with his good friend physicist Carlson. The two scholars argued about an interesting gambling contract. James said, “I have away, you will soon have a bird.” Carlson didn’t believe it, “no way. I didn’t even think about raising birds.”
So James gave Carlson a beautiful birdcage. From that day on, visitors to Carlson’s house would always ask him, “where’s your bird?” after seeing the empty cage
Carlson’s explanation over and over again can only get the more confused eyes of the guests. Over time, Carlson was so annoyed that he had to buy a bird.
He was completely controlled by James’s “Birdcage”, and his self-consciousness disappeared and fell into the result of being manipulated by others. Because someone else gave a birdcage, so raised a bird. This kind of logical reasoning misunderstood by others with habitual thinking, and eventually succumbed to strong inertia thinking, is not uncommon in life.
A lot of times, we just hang a cage in our heart, and then we can’t help filling it with something? The unconscious is manipulated by other things and then tired of them. The birdcage effect is sometimes difficult to get rid of, but as long as it is used reasonably, it can also bring help to our life.
Everyone knows that reading is very important, but it is not easy to form the habit of reading. At this time, we can set up a “Birdcage” for ourselves: try to open the books at the head of the bed. Open books want people to read more than closed ones. Reduce unnecessarily, increase effectiveness, this is the real inspiration of birdcage effect.
03.
Will negative emotions pop up suddenly, Even devouring you like the night?
Learn to manage emotions, to control life. This, Mustang ending may give us some enlightenment.
Mustang ending:
In the Savannah of Africa, there is a bat that often bites the legs of wild horses to suck blood. They put their sharp canine teeth into the wild horse’s body. At this time, some wild horses don’t like it, but some wild horses will run furiously, shake their tails and try their best to get rid of the bat. But it didn’t help at all. In the end, the bats were full of blood and left happily, while many unfortunate wild horses died suddenly.
Zoologists found that bats suck very little blood, far from enough to kill. The real causes of death of these wild horses are: rage and running.
This is the famous “Mustang ending” in Psychology: if you can’t control your emotions, it will lead to terrible consequences.
Most of the time, your fury just exposes your incompetence. You don’t have a more ingenious, elegant, and intelligent way to solve the contradictions and problems in front of you. You can only burst out the primitive instinct and roar like a beast.
Philosopher Schopenhauer said: to be angry at other people’s behavior is as stupid as to be angry at a stone that is on our way forward.
Truly intelligent people will not stir up their own emotions because of other people’s faults, and finally, make things worse and worse. On the contrary, they are open-minded and have a higher vision. What they see is a more important essence. All accusations and fury are like a gust of wind in their eyes, and nothing can be changed.
Negative emotions are like night. The only thing you can do is bring in light. When you find that everything is not satisfactory, first reflect on whether you are in an emotional dilemma. Calm down, it’s always right. Don’t tangle or entangle, enlarge your pattern and become a cultured person.
04.
Deal with interpersonal relationship in life and work, Do you feel powerless?
We all know the “hidden rules” of social interaction, but we still can’t be “good at social interaction”. The south wind effect can make us understand this more clearly.
South wind effect:
French writer La Fontaine wrote such a fable: the north wind is stronger than the south wind, which can take off the coat on the pedestrian. The north wind tried its best to blow the clothes off the pedestrians. As a result, pedestrians wrapped their coats tightly to resist the cold. The south wind blows slowly, making the weather warm and sunny. Because the pedestrians felt warm, they took off their coats one after another. In this game, south wind won.
In dealing with the relationship between people, once the method is wrong, it will not be effective, but counterproductive. Smart people need to have a certain “flexibility”, gentle and flexible is more effective than extreme rigid.
The most ardent need in human nature is the desire to be affirmed. No matter what role you play, remember that everything starts from “heart”, giving people affirmation and appreciation, moving with emotion, forming a virtuous circle of “warmth”. It is a wise rule to allow others to be better than themselves.
However, if you learn to get along with your competitors flexibly, learn from each other’s strong points and cooperate, the positive effect will be reflected. All these are the Enlightenment of the south wind effect.
05.
Do you feel like you have been working hard for a year, But still no progress?
Blind advance with unknown direction is useless even if it is persisted for a long time. The caterpillar effect tells us not only to pull the car but also to look up at the road.
Caterpillar effect:
French psychologist John Farber has done an experiment: the caterpillar head to tail, surrounded by a circle on the edge of a flowerpot, not far from the place scattered some pine leaves as their food. However, the caterpillars circled the basin day and night, but they did not turn to food because of hunger. Finally, they were exhausted and died one after another.
Many people always use “how much” to evaluate the quality of work, and do not pay attention to the results. They blindly follow the established route and never think about the direction of “rebirth”. The pursuit of progress, but mostly unclear direction. One day, I will find that what I do is useless, and the satisfaction comes from self-moving.
Some people say that ordinary people like me can only take one step at a time and comfort themselves constantly. No matter what they experience, they will become a part of me. However, the real growth should be that I know how to choose which part of the experience becomes me. Accepting it all is cowardice. When the new work-life comes, everyone also needs to find their breakthrough. If you feel stagnant, don’t work hard anymore. Try to look up and see if there are a broader world and a broader vision around you.
In 2021, a new starting point, a new beginning, a clear understanding of their own heart, this is not forgetting the original heart; to find their way, this is smart forward. A new start, we use psychology to re-recognize ourselves, experience and trial and error, constantly sum up and correct, with the perspective of looking at others, to look at ourselves.
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