20 Psychological Traps, Have You Been Caught?

A person has what kind of heart, has what kind of world. Man is the psychological slave of his ideas.

The success or failure, honor or disgrace, gain or loss of a person’s life all play an important role because of his ideas.

To make ourselves happy and relaxed, we must change our wrong ideas and paranoid thinking habits, learn to give up, learn to let go, and learn to forget.

01. Paranoia — self-focused obsession

There is no doubt that it is a commendable quality to be independent and intelligent, not to echo the voice and not to go up and down with the world, but it should be based on the premise of not sticking to one’s own opinions and not being extreme and stubborn.

No matter how we behave or how we do things, our mind should have a dialectical point of view. We should stick to a corner, sit back and watch the sky, and regard our prejudice as the truth until we die. This is a taboo in dealing with life. If we can’t correct this attitude in time, we are likely to fall into a dead corner of life.

02. Be eager for quick success and instant benefit — short sightedness

People who are eager for quick success and instant benefit are short-sighted. They can only see in front of their eyes. The so-called “treating head with headache, treating foot with foot pain” is the consistent behavior of people who are eager for quick success and instant benefit.

To get rid of the present situation, these people can ignore the future interests, just for a moment’s pleasure, without long-term consideration. The result is often not worth the loss.

03. Fantasy — the giant of thought, dwarf of action

When people encounter setbacks or problems that are difficult to solve, they break away from reality, daydream, put themselves into the imaginary world, and try to deal with setbacks in a fictional way to obtain satisfaction.

Daydream is a kind of fantasy. If daydream takes the place of meaningful action, it will become a means of escape from reality, or a sign of abnormal psychology, and develop into fantasy. Fantasy is beautiful, reality is cruel.

Fantasy is just a feeling. If you want to succeed in life, you should be based on reality, especially when you are dealing with people. Otherwise, you will not be able to solve problems and seek change and development.

04. Carelessness — the root of failure

This situation often occurs in life. Some people don’t think about it when they encounter something and regret it after making a hasty decision, sometimes even cause an irreparable situation. But there is no regret medicine in this world, we can’t predict tomorrow, so the success or failure of many things often depends on whether we are cautious or reckless.

Some people fail, perhaps because they lack thinking and preparation, and those who are rational always take action after careful consideration, so such people are most likely to succeed.

05. Pride — dignity without support

Generally speaking, the more you know, the more modest you will be, while the less you know and the less generous you are, the more arrogant you will be.

People who are too arrogant put forward an “arrogant and arrogant” attitude, which makes them often feel disgusted by others and makes them difficult to move.

06. Paranoia — the shackles of the mind

Suspicion is one of the weaknesses of human nature, and it has always been the bane of others and oneself.

Paranoia will make people habitually think about the bad and negative aspects of everything around them. Once a person falls into the trap of suspicion, he is easy to be nervous about everything and make others have doubts about himself. This is not good for normal interpersonal relationships, and suspicion will eventually lead him into tension and anxiety.

7. Luxury — when you have money, show off, when you don’t have money, starve

Luxury is a kind of poison, once contaminated, it will continue to spread, and spread very fast, affecting a wide range, a person began to pursue luxury life, then, the people around will soon become luxurious.

Waste is the biggest crime. If you waste time, you are wasting your life. If you waste money, you are on the road to extinction.

08. Autistic — draw a dungeon and shut the world out

If you close yourself up, you can avoid the wind and rain, but the sun can’t get in.

A person who can open his heart and welcome the sunshine will never be autistic. If you have a sunny attitude, you will not lose yourself in depression and loss, and you will not lose your direction.

It’s a positive attitude towards life to correctly assess your value and make yourself continuously “value-added”. In this way, your life will not be spent in vain and you will feel that every day is meaningful.

09. Negativity — the retreat from reality and escape

Negative people often give people a false impression of not admiring fame and wealth. Their hearts are extremely empty, and they are also negative in dealing with things. This kind of person wants nothing and does nothing. No matter how powerful he is, he will accomplish nothing all his life. Negativity and positivity lie in the difference of views and understanding.

Walking on the road of life with too much information, too much desire, and too much competition, we always have some worries, how much hesitation, and often some helplessness. But for the success of a career and happiness of life, we must establish a positive attitude.

Give yourself hope every day, you will have a good mood, your attitude is often your real master.

10. Conceit — the self-expansion of the ignorant

There is no doubt that self-confidence is very important, but if you “overconfidence”, it will become “conceit”. There is a degree between “self-confidence” and “conceit”, but many people become self-inflated because of their success and fall into the psychological trap of conceit.

Conceit is sometimes manifested as arrogance, thinking that they are omnipotent, overestimating themselves, and looking down on the people around them. Therefore, conceited people often fall into a state of mania and eventually fail.

11. Greed — the root of poverty and disaster of the mind

In real life, people can’t have no desire. The desire for money makes many people greedy. Money is indeed the basic guarantee of people’s lives, but after solving the needs of life, we can’t be greedy.

To find ways to stop themselves, not because of excessive greed in exchange for regret.

12. Unprincipled — abandoned morality

Interests are often sought after in life, and some people even like to equate all their criteria with interests. When we get along with our relatives, friends, and other people, we always attach importance to our interests.

To be sure, for many people, interests are very important. However, if interests are taken as the criteria of their work, then in the future, those who do so can only lift stones and hit themselves on the feet.

Sometimes, interest will become a trap for others to lure themselves, and people who take interest as the criterion have a much greater chance of falling into the trap than jumping over it.

13. Jealousy — denigrates the achievements of others and exposes one’s incompetence

Jealousy is a cancer of the human heart. Jealousy can make beautiful people ugly and warm people cold.

Jealousy is a feeling of hatred. People who have jealousy will gnash their teeth when they see that others are better than themselves and are luckier than themselves. When they see that others are less lucky than themselves and are not as good as themselves, they will be complacent.

Such feelings will have a very negative impact on interpersonal relationships. People should look at the world with an open-minded heart, because jealousy can only send people to the edge of madness and collapse, and will not let people get good and happy.

14. Obstinacy — the root of stupidity in the mind

Obstinacy is a kind of psychological phenomenon that insists on prejudice and does not know how to adapt.

People’s cognition of things, as well as the evaluation of the value of things, should be completed through their values, which itself has a very strong subjective color.

If you have a wrong understanding of a thing, but you are unwilling to accept other people’s opinions for effective correction, you will make more mistakes. Obstinacy is not a synonym for persistence.

It is not difficult to open the shackles of obstinacy. As long as you can correct your wrong views in time and accept new things effectively, you can easily open the shackles of obstinacy.

15. Less trusting — less trusting, easier, more difficult

Honesty is the foundation of our life. To be honest, the most important thing is not to promise easily, to avoid treachery. If you agree to other people’s demands without careful consideration, and you can’t do it afterward, such people won’t gain other people’s trust. Promise other people’s things, we must do, to promise a thousand gold. Confucius said: “people do not stand without faith.” People’s words and deeds should be based on honesty.

16. Publicity — Friends of the shallow

People with publicity personality are arrogant, domineering and too sharp, which easily lead to criticism between words and deeds and hurt others and themselves. Therefore, people should be cautious in their words and deeds. Even if you are talented and unsuccessful, you don’t need to be pessimistic or complain about the unfairness of life. You should take it lightly and behave with a low attitude.

17. Vanity — all evils revolve around vanity

Vanity is the pursuit of personal glory and surface aura, to win the appreciation and respect of others. People who love vanity have a strong sense of inferiority. They don’t know that people who are empty and ignorant in heart and bright in appearance are boring.

Everyone will have some vanity more or less. We should not expand and upgrade it. Instead, we should see our shortcomings and shortcomings through vanity, strengthen learning and improvement, constantly improve and motivate ourselves, and forge ahead.

18. Worship gold — shackle yourself with gold

There is no doubt that money plays an important role in people’s lives, but money is not the whole of life. Money is something out of life. Don’t be blinded by money and your greed. Just enough. Get rid of greed, so that you can be content and free from shackles. Besides, don’t be stingy. Being able to help others is also a kind of happiness.

Don’t pay too much attention to money, learn to give up, to grasp the opportunity and destiny of life.

19. Impulse — caught in a whirlpool of remorse and remorse

In daily life, many things make us angry and helpless, but no matter how impulsive our emotions are, we can’t lose our sense, and we can’t take drastic actions regardless of everything. The solution of any matter is the result of reason and fairness. Blindly impulsive is not only useless but often causes consequences that we can not afford. It is a wise choice to use reason to control one’s behavior when encountering difficulties.

20. Fluke — self-deceptive indulgence

Fluke psychology is a kind of very unhealthy psychology, which blinds people’s thoughts, makes them unable to make correct judgments, and even loses their direction. Over time, people’s thoughts will change unconsciously. Serious consequences are formed by the accumulation of small things bit by bit, so we should start from small things to prevent them. A fluke once in a while may lead to achievement or benefit, but one day one will fall.

At any time, we should discard the fluke heart, improve our moral cultivation, and realize our ideals step by step.

– About The Writer –

I am Cedric S, a psychologist, and a writer from the other side of the earth. Focus on:

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